Weddings Are Coming (Hopefully?)

June is the most popular month for weddings, which means you may have to attend one in the not-so-distant future (hopefully?). 

Let’s take an optimistic view and look forward to these gatherings as not only unions for those getting married, but for us, as guests, to get involved in something other than planning the Netflix situation for the weekend.

The good news, for us gents, dressing to be a wedding guest is pretty straightforward. 

A suit, tie, and some nice kicks are standard, but those categories are broad so here are some tips on how to get it right.

The Tried and True 

It’s hard to go wrong with a navy suit.  Gray works, but I’m not a fan of the charcoal variety for the summer.  It's too dark for my taste (unless it’s an evening wedding, then you should be OK)  

Pair your navy / gray suit with a white, semi-spread collar shirt, black or dark brown oxfords, and conservative neckwear (I like navy solid ties as a go-to). 

Mid-blue ties in simple check or dot patterns work well.  Stay away from anything to bright or bold.   We’re there to celebrate, not to steal the show. 

As always, finish with a white linen/cotton pocket square.   

Follow the Invitation

Always follow the instructions on the invite. 

If it says “black tie,” wear a tuxedo if you can. 

If it says “black tie optional,” you can opt into a black suit. 

“Cocktail attire” or “formal” means dark’ish suits with white or ice blue shirts. 

“Informal” could mean a casual suit (khaki or light gray, linen, etc)

Possibly no tie (although I’d recommend showing up with one because you can remove it). 

“White tie” and you’re headed somewhere super fancy.  Best to coordinate with the groom or hit me up for a gameplan.

Timing

If the wedding is being held during the daytime, go one shade lighter for the suit.  Lighter blue instead of navy, or lighter-gray. 

Keep the polished shoes and a white shirt, to keep things sharp. 

Location Matters

If the location incorporates sand or hay, civility is no longer a concern but we don’t dress down, right?  We dress up!

You could wear a khaki suit, a pair of brown shoes, and a more casual tie (pink or mid-blue are great). 

If it’s hot, try a suit made from tropical wool or linen or linen-blend and consider the no-tie look. 

Seersucker is a good idea for us in the South.  So many options in this category now. 

The traditional blue/white combo still works but an updated colorway like all navy (like this), is a more modern approach. 

OK, to wrap up, you’re always better off being overdressed than underdressed.  

All I  ask is that you don’t look more formal than the groom.  

Any questions — I’m here for ya.